[katedayone]

172lbs 5'5"
So, I am the girl who gets dumped by her boyfriend after gaining too much weight. While seeing the true depth of his feelings is a good thing, being suddenly single and overweight is nothing less than depressing. To give you some background, about 8 months ago I weighed 125. He told me he loved me and begged me to move in. I did. I got rid of my furniture, my apartment, everything that I thought was unnecessary(since his place was already furnished.)I was unhappy with my job so he told me to quit, and I did. He's a great cook and he always wants to eat out, so i went along and meanwhile I gained approx. 50 pounds, and then he dumped me. While he never said it's the weight, I know him well enough to know the truth...and now I'm fat, stuck living with him and hearing him talk about his friend's girlfriend who's abnormally thin (maybe 5' and 90lbs at the most.) So, I joined the gym, am changing my diet, and am starting lipovarin. Don't misunderstand my intent. I am not trying to get him to be my boyfriend again. But I am trying to again feel good about myself and to make him regret his shallow decision. I want him to want me, and I want to turn him down. Maybe stupid, but validating. So I'm 5'5" and 172lbs with 40% body fat and hopefully in my updates you'll see my lbs and fat% decrease.

[sienna78]

Hi Kate
Well sounds like your lucky to find out the truth about your ex. Image if you would of got married. It could of been worse. But I understand you want to get back in shape so he can feel stupid for breaking it off with you. Just remember you have to do this for you!! There's plenty of men that would love you for you. No matter what you weigh. My husband thinks I look perfect right now but I'm telling him I doing this for me & how it's going to make me feel.
Lipovarin does give you that push but you have to exercise & eat right. No sodas, lots of veggies & fruit, & no eating after 7:00pm. I've lost 9lbs since Dec.5. So good luck & keep me posted!!!!

Merry Christmas to you all!!!

Sienna78

[happytapper]

That is HIDEOUS....especially before Christmas.

Good for you that you're getting the weight off right away. You will feel so much better about everything once you can look into the mirror and feel good about the person looking back.

I have had success with Lipovarin and it won't be a long term solution but it has been an excellent JUMP START to the new lifestyle. It's so much easier to maintain rather than lose AND it's lovely when you start to see results so quickly so that you are motivated to continue!

I wish you the best of luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

Christine

[Light]

Merry Christmas!
Thanx for the help and support you give

[gs]

sorry to hear what's happened. i'm even sorrier to hear you are unhappy at your current size. were you completely comfortable being 50 pounds heavier when you were in the relationship. if so, that's good. if you were not, then maybe, just maybe, your miserable self-image may have had to do more with the demise of the relationship.
i'm speaking from experience. my wife sometimes packs on a few extra pounds and i really could care less (we've been married for eight years). the problem is, when it happens, she cares a great deal. she's upset, she miserable, she's cranky and very often downloads these emotions to me. it happens. now she realises what she's doing. more importantly, she realizes that there is nothing i can do to help. i can't run for her. i can't lift for her. i can't skip a meal or two for her. she knows if i could do that, i would. do you see what i'm getting at?
take a good look at the part your self-image played in the relationship and take your responsability. otherwise, if you blame him for making you fat, then you should also give him the credit for motivating you to lose the weight after he left.

[katedayone]

Oh gs, I appreciate your honest analysis of my situation but I don't agree. I don't blame him for my weight gain at all. I blame myself for changing my own habits to accomodate his lifestyle. Yes, I was unhappy with myself but I was continually trying to work on the problem. So, while unhappy with my weight, I was taking a proactive role in solving my problem thus I was not cranky, miserable or self loathing. I was motivated. Unfortunately, he didn't care that I was working on it. He just saw that I was overweight and didn't want a woman who could get to that point. I commend your understanding for your wife's situation but most men are not so understanding. They want what they see in magazines and what's on tv. And while I am trying to lose weight, for myself, so I am healthy and fully happy with myself I don't want such a shallow man. I want someone who loves me thick or thin. The breakup was actually a good thing, I saw his true colors and I met the kind of man I know now to avoid. One thing you said is right, the breakup did motivate me to work harder toward my goals, one of which is losing the weight.

So as a weight loss update, I had a hard time through Xmas and NewYears to get my eating habits and exercise routines in order. As of the 1st I've been strict to a low calorie diet, working out every day, and taking the lipovarin. As of today, I've lost 5 pounds which I think is pretty good. An average of one pound per day.
167lbs

[Tawfique]

I think you sound sweet. Would you consider going on a date with me? I just got released on 10/18/05. Very difficult finding a girl here. I could come visit you. I am M/B/51 6'1 198. Live in Florida. Would you like to exchange numbers?

[gs]

i see. if he wasn't much help then you are better off without him. i wish you luck.