[unlimited]

I was a blimp after college. I'm sure it was bad eating habits and excessive alcohol. But it wasn't so cute when I tried to put on suits to go job hunting. Afterall, we all know when you look good you feel good.

But 2 things happened.

1) I moved to NYC where I had to walk a lot.
2) I stopped caring. I was just too busy.

However, in the back of my mind - I still wanted to lose the weight. But I realized I wanted to lose the self torture more than the weight.

So without even trying I lost 50 lbs. But I finally had to back track to see what I did because people kept asking me how I did it. PLUS I needed to remember so I could quit a ridiculous cigarette smoking habit...so I back tracked.

This is silly - but true and effective. Remember, I lost 50 lbs doing this.

First, I stopped criticizing myself in the mirror. The only way I personally could do this was to stop looking in the mirror. That's just me.

Once I stopped ragging on myself - the torture stopped. That was my first goal afterall. Stop the self-torture.

Second, I realized that the last things I said to myself before going to sleep were the things I acted on the next day. So my last words before going to sleep were that I am beautiful - I am healthy - I am slender and I am desirable. Every night I told myself I loved myself and let it go.

Was I lying to myself....At first yes. But then I noticed I started to feel better. Then I started to look better. I know this because I started getting MAJOR compliments. Remember, I still wasn't looking in the mirror so I thought they were all wacky.

Now, I did this every night and didn't weigh myself at all. As a matter of fact, I tossed the scale. Believe it or not, I stopped craving things like bear claws and donuts and started craving fruit and other things I HAD NEVER EATEN BEFORE. However, when my period came on - I allowed myself a donut. I just didnt' buy a whole box.

Anyway, almost 2 years later - I was having lunch with my brother and for the fist time noticed my belt buckle was about six or seven notches in. A friend had given me a pair of jeans she could no longer fit. I put them on. It was the first time I had worn this type of fitted jeans EVER. I came back from lunch with my brother and looked in the mirror.

I was thin. It was like looking at another person. I couldn't believe it was me. No struggle. No fighting. No hassle.

The mind is an INCREDIBLE thing. What you say to yourself matters. There are some subliminal Audios at my website if you'd like to use them to assist you. SoGettingRich.com It's all about the repetition.

Otherwise, be nice to you. Say nice things. Stop judging yourself. You're beautiful. By the way, once I started loving me - the world did too. I attracted some of the hottest men. I got engaged etc etc etc.

So, just take it one day at a time. Love you! and if you need to use some audios... do it ....But be nice to you.

Lee
P.S. I did quit smoking cigarettes the same way...but the cigarettes were harder. It took me to the Cross. Seriously. But it did work. I'm smoke free and skinny too. God Bless.

[sushil]

Thanks for this useful article. you guy are write too long article coz you know much about subject. but i have not much knowledge about subject . and to known subject i hope this article help me much.

[Rita Hancock MD]

I'm a medical doctor (a Christian) and I give my patients the same advice that helped me to lose 75 pounds and keep it off for 25 years: eat according to your hunger, not emotions. It sounds both easy and hard at the same time, I know, but I walk my patients through it step-by-step in the program I created. It's called The Eden Diet. It's all about eating food you love and enjoy, but in small portions and only when you're actually hungry. And it's about how to NOT eat because of "external" cues like emotions, boredom, etc. Everybody's different, and you should check with your doctor for what is right for you. But, if you're interested, check out my website [url]http://www.TheEdenDiet.com. [/url]It's still under construction, but you can view parts of it.

[Fit_nrg]

Hello ,

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[Rita Hancock MD]

I so love what you wrote a while back, "unlimited." I totally agree that the battle is in the mind. What you say to yourself does matter. And if you listen to what your body says, you WILL eat more healthy food. Congratulations on your victory.

It's our dog-gone minds that mess us up, not our bodies' cravings. I think that's why God didn't intend for us to eat from the Tree of Knowledge in the beginning. We'd have been happier not "knowing" or thinking so much. Because when we overthink or think improperly about how to eat (such as you did when you were heavier), we just get ourselves into trouble. That's why I think we should listen to our bodies internal messages more and retrain our minds to think like thin people, just exactly like you did.

What's really ironic is that I spent all that time and money at Cornell learning about obesity research, and then I finally realized that the science points directly back to God as having the right answer--hunger pangs. If I started with God instead of ended with Him, it would have been free. Duh.

[Guest]

[Guest]

I can understand where you're coming from on this issue. Yes, I agree that overeating is gluttony and that is a sin. And it is ideal to eat healthy food because it is best for our body. I offer no argument there. Those points are self-evident. I learned all about that at Cornell in my nutrition minor--not that you need an Ivy League education to know it's "better" to eat healthy food.

However, once you understand more clearly what I advocate, you will see that though your methods and mine are different, we end up at the same place--a place where the person eats less food overall, less junk food, and more healthy food.

What normally happens is that once I give people the green light to eat what they enjoy (but only in small portions and when they're hungry), they initially might even go a little "overboard" and eat a little too much junk. But, within days to maybe a week or so, they tend to not even want the junky food as much. They end up craving things like chicken and vegetables and fruit, and tend to want less junk. They end up attuning to their inner cravings for healthy food and actually crave fruits and vegetables.

You see, we often want what we think we can't have even more. So if you tell an overweight person (who obviously has a weakness for food) that they shouldn't eat junk, they'll just end up bingeing on junk and then gain even more weight. What good does a judgmental, critical attitude do in that situation? The answer is NONE. All is does is make matters worse.

So, you see, with my methods, we get to the same place.....the place where the person is eating less and eating relatively more healthy food and less junk food, but we've done it in a more merciful and relaxed, and less judgmental and negative way, compared to what traditional thinking advocates.

I hope that I've helped you to understand the reasoning behind my plan.

In my medical practice, I use this plan and have found it to work amazingly well when other plans fail. It has a proven track record. You can take it or leave it if you want to, and I can respect that. But I'm going to continue to recommend it because it works. I've seen people who were diabetic and/or hypertensive come off medicine, I've seen cholesterol levels drop substantially, and I've seen people lose weight and gain joy when their shame is lifted. This plan has delivered miracles in so many ways, physically, emotionally, and even spiritually, that my medical colleagues are adopting it as well.

Finally, I appreciate your time in commenting on my post, and your interesting and thought-provoking comments, but I regret that I may not have more time to devote to this thread. My medical practice has become exceptionally busy in recent weeks, and I find myself being able to spend less time with my family when I spend a lot of time posting. So, this may be my last post here.

I do wish you well, I respect your opinion, and I thank you for your interest. However, something tells we'll just have to agree to disagree on my main diet philosophy.


Sincerely, Rita Hancock MD